{"id":10159,"date":"2016-01-05T16:35:53","date_gmt":"2016-01-05T21:35:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/joemckeever.com\/wp\/?p=10159"},"modified":"2016-01-05T16:36:20","modified_gmt":"2016-01-05T21:36:20","slug":"pastors-wife-and-particular-wishes-deacons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/joemckeever.com\/wp\/pastors-wife-and-particular-wishes-deacons\/","title":{"rendered":"What every pastor’s wife–and one in particular–wishes to say to the deacons"},"content":{"rendered":"

Every pastor’s wife I know would like to say to the good and faithful deacons:<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Thank you.”<\/p>\n

“Thank you for loving the Lord, for loving this church, and for loving your pastor and his family.”<\/p>\n

“Thank you for praying for us, for being in your place of service on Sunday, and for taking care of the members during the week.”<\/p>\n

“Thank you for your servant heart and for not seeing yourself as my husband’s boss, only as his support and helper.”<\/p>\n

“We are richer and the work is better because you are faithful.”<\/p>\n

Sadly, all spouses of pastors cannot say that. But they wish they could<\/p>\n

When the wife of a pastor friend suggested an article on “What preachers’ wives would like to say to the deacons,” I said, “Write me what you would\u00a0tell them,” and I’ll see what I can do.<\/p>\n

Here it is–her list, completely untouched, just as\u00a0it arrived a few minutes ago.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Thirteen things one pastor’s wife would like to say to the deacons….<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. If the church expects the pastor to prepare a Sunday night and Wednesday night Bible study, BE THERE!<\/p>\n

2. My husband just poured himself out preaching God’s message to you while you sat in your seat! Stick around and see if anyone needs a ride home or has a ministry need!<\/p>\n

3. After the service is over and everyone has left, make sure the lights
\nare off and lock up! The pastor is physically and emotionally exhausted,
\nand HE is hungry too!<\/p>\n

4. Please do not go to my husband with church problems before the service; YOU deal with them!<\/p>\n

5. If you think the pastor should initiate a church wide visitation program
\ntaking him away from his family on another night of the week, at least show up once or twice!<\/p>\n

6. Work on your spiritual walk enough so that when you are called on to
\npray publicly, we don’t already know what you will say almost word for
\nword.<\/p>\n

7. Pray for my husband often!<\/p>\n

8. Ask my husband about his needs: physical, spiritual, emotional, AND
\nfinancial. Minister to the Pastor’s family. Burnout is a killer!<\/p>\n

9. Step up to lead a Bible study occasionally.<\/p>\n

10. Ask the pastor if there is some non-ministry task he deals with that
\nyou could help him with.<\/p>\n

11. You were not called to sit! You were called to serve! That means daily, not just on communion Sunday!<\/p>\n

12. Pray for my husband before the service, and tell him you are! Better
\nyet, pray OVER him before he preaches!<\/p>\n

13. My family has been here only a few years and knows everyone’s name. You’ve been here all your life! Walk around and greet people at church. Get to know their names!<\/p>\n

The wife of another minister who saw what she was doing, added these two….<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. If asked to help in a simple way by perhaps leading the welcome and
\nannouncements, do so with a willing heart ??? so the pastor’s wife
\ndoesn’t have to.<\/p>\n

2. Also- as a deacon, you aren’t the pastor’s police—ready to give him a
\nticket for misconduct; you are his secret service, standing beside him to
\nsupport protect and encourage him at all times!<\/p>\n

Those are great, and I find nothing objectionable about them.\u00a0 Now–here’s the deal.\u00a0 If the wife of a deacon wishes to response to this and write me on “What the deacons’ wives wish they could say to the pastor,” let’s have it.\u00a0 Email me at joe@joemckeever.com.\u00a0 Thanks!! <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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