“Now, in the last days, difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self…boastful, arrogant, revilers…ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited…. Avoid such men as these.” (II Timothy 3:1-5)
Veteran Christian workers get this a lot. People tell you of a conversation with you from years ago in which you spoke words that changed their lives. You were God’s gift to them that day, or, just as likely you infuriated them and they have not been able to get past it.
The problem is you don’t remember any of it.
My daily e-mail brought two such messages, one of each kind. A young minister was thanking me and an older pastor was venting. The conversations had occurred some ten years earlier. I remembered neither.
The older pastor told of the time he sat in my office, seeking guidance for entering the ministry. According to him, I had asked what kind of church position he was interested in. That was the harmless little question that had ticked him off and fueled his anger for a full decade.
“I was morally outraged by the question,” he said.