Christian Fellowship V: “The Most Basic Element is ‘Hanging Out’ Together”

Acts 2:42 tells us the believers in the Jerusalem church were engaged with each other in four ways:

1) The apostles’ doctrine — which means they were studying the Word. Without a written New Testament, the apostles were relating their personal stories of Jesus to the new believers. In our gospels, we have much, most, or possibly all of what they shared.

2) Fellowship. More about this below.

3) Breaking of bread — they were eating together.

4) Prayer — they were praying with one another.

Let’s draw a bead on the second element, fellowship. The Greek word, as everyone on the planet has heard by now, is ‘koinonia.’ It’s a good word and basically refers to something that is shared. We sit at the table together and share a “common” meal. “Common” means we all partake of it. When I was in college, the big living room on the first floor of the dormitory was called the common room. Likewise, we have words like community, commune, commonality, and communication.

My Greek professors–all of whom are in Heaven and presumably none of whom read this blog–might not appreciate my free-wheeling take on “fellowship” or “koinonia,” but I think of it as simply “hanging out.” To “fellowship” is simply to spend time with others without an agenda.

We don’t do much of that any more. Not in life in general or in the church in particular. But it’s one of the best parts of life.

Each afternoon at the McDonalds a few blocks down the street from my house, the old guys meet for coffee and fellowship. Their wives are glad to get them out of the house, their adult children are glad Pop has some friends, and the men themselves may look upon it as harmless chit-chat, but the idea is the same. Hanging out.

I spent two hours hanging out at church this morning. Here’s what happened.

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Christian Fellowship IV: “What Fellowship Looks Like”

Someone said to me once, “The Bible doesn’t say a whole lot about the interworkings of believers with one another.” What was surprising about this is that it came from a godly deacon who knew his Bible as well as anyone in the church. I knew he was missing something.

I said, “Remember all those ‘one another’ commands in the Bible? Those are directed toward the Lord’s people. And by ‘one another,’ they don’t mean everyone in the world. They’re talking about how we are to treat other believers.”

The other night, I scanned the New Testament from Matthew to Revelation–no computer either and no concordance; did it with my Bible in a motel room in Indianapolis–and made a list of every ‘one another’ command I could find. I counted thirty-one.

These are elements in Christian fellowship, expressions of God’s will for the members of your church and mine.

Since we’re putting them in order, that explains why the first one is John 13:14 (or, at least, it’s the first one I found).

“Wash one another’s feet.” John 13:14

“Love one another.” That’s given most memorably in John 13:34-35, but is found at least a dozen times throughout the New Testament. It surely must be the most important element in our relations with each other.

“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love.” Romans 12:10

“Give preference to one another in honor.” Romans 12:10

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Making Assumptions

One day this week I was entering the local library to drop off some recorded books I’d carried to Indianapolis. At the same time, a young mother was coming in from the parking lot, fanning herself with the palm of her hand. I commented, rather inanely, “So, do you think it’s hot?”

She didn’t smile. “Rather,” is all she said.

Five minutes later, we happened to be exiting at the same time. I said, “Well, we can be thankful for A/C.” She said humorlessly, “I don’t have air-conditioning.”

I said, “Excuse me. I’m sorry.”

My assumption was that she was doing the same thing I was, rushing from an air-conditioned office to an air-conditioned car, and from there to an air-conditioned library, back again, and later into an air-conditioned home. That in this modern age when every building and vehicle seems to be cooled, she was without such a taken-for-granted blessing never occurred to me.

A little reflection shows the error of my assumption. On these blisteringly hot evenings when residents of some neighborhoods are sitting outside, visiting with each other, I have been known to glance in their direction and wistfully comment, “How nice. They’re spending time together.” That they’re outside because the inside of their houses is smothering never occurred to me.

Assumptions. They can be embarrassing, as in the case above. Or, they can be deadly.

Craig Ratliff pastors the St. Bernard campus of Celebration Church, built on the location of the former site of First Baptist Church of Arabi, whose buildings were ruined by Katrina and later demolished. At our Wednesday pastors’ meeting, Craig shared some aspects of his growing ministry.

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Letter to A New Pastor

If all goes as planned, pastor, your visit to our church this upcoming weekend will result in a unanimous call from the congregation for you to become our next shepherd. You will return home, make your announcement to your church family, and put your house up for sale. A month or so later, you will preach your first sermon in our church.

You will find a lot of things once you begin your ministry among us. You’ll find our people receptive and responsive. We’ve been over a year without a pastor–we’ve had the very best interim possible in Mark Tolbert, but he would be the first to admit, “it ain’t the same”–and we’re ready.

You’ll find this church to be a lot like the one you came from, and probably the one before that. Since congregations are made up of frail beings from the complete spectrum of humanity, we’re not unlike all those other churches. This means you’ll find the vast majority to be good folks who require low maintenance, but a certain percentage at each end of the range will require more of your attention. At one end will be those who try your soul, who are never satisfied, who are takers and complainers and demanders. God puts them in the church to keep the pastor humble.

At the other end you will discover the sweetest people on the planet, those who look for ways to serve, who are grateful for anything you do, who bring you the occasional pie or flowers or a book. God puts them in the church to keep the pastor from quitting.

A pastor friend wrote back to his former church, “The most surprising discovery we’ve made since arriving here was to find the very same people we left behind. Only, they have different names.” I expect you’ll find that to be the case with us.

In spite of all our attempts to put no expectations on you and your family, I think it’s fair to warn you we do have several.

1) We expect you to be yourself.

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Character Issues

Trying to get back into the saddle at the associational office after being gone for some 10 days is tough. Fortunately, not a lot on the calendar this week.

First Baptist Church of Kenner is agog over the upcoming visit from the prospective pastor this weekend. He will meet with various groups on Saturday, including the senior adults at lunch, various individuals in the afternoon, and the entire church for a dinner that night, followed by Q and A. He’ll preach Sunday and then the congregation will express their sense of the Lord’s leadership (also known as “voting on him,” a poor choice of terms).

Church administrator Danny Moore said Tuesday, “The congregation is so excited about his coming, I think they’re ready to ‘vote him in’ right now before they’ve even met him.” In my conversation with the pastor today, I told him what Danny said, and for a moment considered teasing him with, “You’ll have to do a lousy job to blow it this Sunday, because everyone is so ready for you!” But, he doesn’t need any more pressure. I’ve been in his position a few times and the hardest thing you have to do is keep the focus off what the congregation wants and keep it on pleasing the Lord.

I dug out Cal Thomas’ op-ed column from Monday’s Times-Picayune since its message has followed me around the last two days. He was commenting on Barack Obama’s religious faith, wondering if he is indeed a Christian as he claims. Thomas’ authority, he’s quick to point out, is an interview Obama gave to the Chicago Sun-Times’ religion editor Cathleen Falsani in 2004. She was writing a book, “The God Factor: Inside the Spiritual Lives of Public People,” for which she interviewed Obama.

“I’m rooted in the Christian tradition,” she quotes Obama. Then, he says one of those innocuous things that only an outsider to the Christian faith would utter: “I believe there are many paths to the same place, and that is a belief that there is a higher power, a belief that we are connected as a people.”

That is tantamount to a medical doctor stating his belief that all remedies for physical ailments–everything from modern medical science to the incantations of medicine men to the ignorant drillings and potions of witch doctors–are equal in value and similarly effective. I don’t think so.

Falsani went on to say that Obama believes “all people of faith–Christians, Jews, Muslims, animists, everyone–know the same God.”

The only person who can utter such a statement is someone unfamiliar with any of those “gods.” The more you find out about them, the quicker you see how incompatible they are.

Cal Thomas, a devout Catholic if I remember correctly, concludes, “Evangelicals and serious Catholics might ask if this is so, why did Jesus waste His time coming to Earth, suffering pain, rejection and crucifixion? If there are many ways to God, He might have sent down a spiritual version of table manners and avoided the rest.”

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Letter to a Young Driver

Dear Grandson,

Before long, you’ll be getting your drivers license. That’s a day you have long anticipated and the adults in your life have long dreaded. It’s a bittersweet moment, signifying in a sense that you are coming of age and taking a giant stride into independence. Your mom and dad are hyperventilating just thinking of that.

This is a great time to be a driver in some respects. The cars are better, safer, and easier to drive than at any time in history. They’re also more expensive and the insurance you will need to carry will cost enough to buy a second car. The price of gasoline has always been a factor, but never more than now. In our neighborhood, the cost per gallon has risen ten cents in the last week. When I was your age, three of those dimes would buy you a gallon. Dark ages, right?

Actually, I got my drivers license in the summer of 1957, exactly 51 years ago. In those days–just to show you how this driving business has changed–you were required to take the test in a car with a standard shift. And you were not allowed to use the electronic turn signals; you had to stick your hand out the window and signal to other drivers your intent to turn, slow down, or stop. Of course, there were no seat belts back then, no air bags, and the tires regularly blew out. As I say, the cars are much better now.

However, beloved grandson, there are some urgent matters I feel a need to call to your attention about driving.

The highway is a dangerous place. And yes, so are the streets and avenues. Powerful cars, high speeds, and frail humans can be a deadly combination.

Now, at this point you’re thinking, “Grandpa, I’ve ridden in cars all my life. I know about these things. I’ve seen a dog run out in front of the car and Dad slam on the brakes. I’ve seen wrecked cars where someone had been drinking and ran a red light and people were hurt. I am well aware of the danger of driving.”

Does this mean you’re going to forget this foolishness about getting a drivers license? I didn’t think so.

So, let me continue, even if you want to roll your eyes and leave the room. Please stay with me just a few more minutes.

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Out Of The Mouths Of Babes

My friend Verona Cain and I have been exchanging e-mails regarding tithing and stewardship, and she told me a story that knocked my socks off.

What follows is all hers with only a tiny bit of editing…

“I teach my children to tithe. My oldest is seven years old and we have had a bank for her for years. The bank has three sections–a church, a savings bank, and a store–which is intended to teach the child to tithe, to save, and to spend.

“When the time came to purchase a similar bank for my middle child, now 5, I drove to the Christian store and could not find one. I described it to the clerk who thought she remembered something like that from years ago. She plundered in the back and came out with it. However, it was so old, the labels that represented the windows for the buildings had peeled off. When I asked if she could order me a newer model, the clerk said, ‘Do people still teach tithing?’

“I could not believe my ears. “Now, my older two children are from a prior marriage. Their father, Robert, left me because of my Christian faith. He came back later and gave me a choice. ‘I will come home if you back off this whole God thing.’ Well, First Corinthians chapter 7 tells us to let the unbelieving spouse go and I knew I could not turn away from the One who promised to never leave me or forsake me in favor of one who had already left me once.

“So, I told him that I was sorry, I just could not live up to those terms.

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A Rhapsody on a Theme of Remembering

This morning I ran across a sermon the wonderful Frank Pollard preached a dozen years ago with the intriguing title “Forget my sin; remember me.” The text, Psalm 25:7, says precisely what the title conveys:

“Do not remember the sins of my youth or my transgressions; according to your lovingkindness remember me, for your goodness’ sake, O Lord.”

Forget my sin. Remember me.

Some of the best news ever encountered for sinners–that would be people like you and me–is that when God forgives a sin, it is forever erased from the eternal record.

I called the cell phone company the other day to ask if they could retrieve a message I had deleted by mistake. “No,” the man said. “Once you delete it and close that transaction, it’s gone.” Gone where? “Just gone. Like it never existed.”

“Your sins and iniquities I will remember no more.” That outstanding promise from Hebrews 10:17 can also be found in Hebrews 8:12 and in Jeremiah 31:34. By recording it in three places, God clearly meant us to get that message.

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Enough, But No More

(A prayer for my grandchildren)

“Heavenly Father,

You have showered Heaven’s blessings on me in ten thousand ways–with life and salvation, with health and friends, with family and church. But no gift from Thy hand has filled me with deeper joy and purer pleasure than the children of my children.

I thank Thee for my grandchildren.

And I pray for them.

I pray that they shall know

–enough of sin to drive them to the Savior, to make them understanding toward others, and to keep them humble.

–enough of failure to turn them to the overcoming Lord and make them wise and strong and smart.

–enough of heartache to appreciate the comfort of the Holy Spirit and to fill them with kindness.

–enough of betrayal to appreciate Thy faithfulness and make them loyal.

–enough of struggle and hardships to find strength in Thee and make them faithful.

–enough of bruises in life to toughen them and make them gentle.

–enough of disappointments to open their eyes about people and give them discernment and judgment.

–enough of ugliness to appreciate the beauty always found in the heart of God and in Thy creation.

Enough–but no more than that, please.

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The Next Ten Days

Next week, with the annual meeting of the Southern Baptist Convention going on in Indianapolis–one of our favorite cities for this sort of thing–I’ll be away from this blogging machine. I may or may not send something to son Marty so he can post here, but readers need a vacation from this constant barrage of our stuff. Enjoy it while you can.

On the way back south from the convention, I’ll be leading a deacons retreat for Five Points Baptist Church in Northport, Alabama (Tuscaloosa is its suburb) that Friday night and Saturday morning, then preaching for the two Sunday morning services. Not sure of the times of the service, but if you’re in the area, we’d love to have you present.

As you know, we do not do promote anything or sell stuff, or for that matter, send forwards to you. (You’re welcome.) However….

This is a good time to call to your attention some special friends with fascinating ministries you might want to check into.

1) Kathy Frady may be the most creative person on the planet. Check out her website at www.thecreativedramatist.com. She’s a local lady and, with Rebecca Hughes, leader of the women’s ministry of our association. What she does is don outlandish disguises–wigs, outfits, etc–and assume the role of various women you will meet at church (in your dreams/nightmares!) and a few who lived in earlier generations (Lottie Moon, Annie Armstrong, Georgia Barnette, these girls). She is so funny it’s not funny. How in the world she can be so off-the-wall crazy and so wonderfully-sweet-and-sane-and-spiritual at the same time is beyond me. She writes her own material and will knock your socks off.

Kathy’s husband John Frady is a staff-member at Celebration Church in Metairie and her biggest supporter. I figure it was either support her or kill her. (That was a funny, Mom.)

Many of our readers have seen Kathy on denominational programs and know what I’m talking about. This week I have sent out letters to some of the leading pastors/churches in Louisiana about Kathy, asking them to check out her website, and to consider inviting her to their church for special events, banquets, women’s day services, and the like.

2) My son Marty has a young friend with a unique website which invites your prayer requests and enlists the participation of readers in praying for needs posted there. Check out www.iwalkwithhim.com.

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