“Pastor, some of our members are concerned.”

You now have his attention, believe me.

Say all you want about how the minister is God-called and God-protected and that sort of thing, but he would be less than human if he did not want the people he’s serving to be supportive and responsive. Since he’s sent to help them, he will always be looking for some kind of evidence he’s accomplishing that purpose.  Otherwise, he feels that he has either failed them or God. Or both.

Every pastor is vulnerable as a result.

What makes him more vulnerable to negative influences from the congregation is that he has a family to feed and look after the same way you do if you work at the post office, drive a delivery truck, teach school, or extract teeth. The fact that he needs this job means he opens himself up to pressure from his constituents.

As a result, he reacts–at least emotionally–when he hears some of these lines that have been used on preachers since the beginning of the church.

–“I know we ought to be reaching all these people and it’s good they’re being saved, but I miss our church the way it used to be.”

The church I was visiting had 140 in the two morning services. When the pastor came, three or four years earlier, they had 40. In the previous 3 Sundays, he baptized 11 people. Before the benediction, the pastor called on me for a word or two. I said, “My friends, I am thrilled at the growth your church is having. These are wonderful days in this church. But I need to caution you about something. The devil will not take this lying down. He will raise up people to criticize and oppose, and he’ll do it from within the congregation.”

I said, “Sooner or later, you will hear someone say, ‘I wish our church was the way it used to be.’ When that happens, do not wait for the pastor to address it. That’s your job. You turn to them and say, ‘Are you out of your mind?!’” They laughed, but I hope they got the point.

–“I’m not being spiritually fed by your sermons.”

This is a common ruse that accomplishes two things: it puts the preacher down while leaving the impression the critic is super spiritual with a taste for the red meat of the Word. And may I say, such criticism is almost always off base.

I once had a chairman of deacons say, “Preacher, they say you’re not preaching the Word.” I said, “Well, I just got through preaching through the Gospel of Matthew. What did they mean by that?” He said, “I don’t know.” I said, “Please go back and ask them.” That was the last I heard of it.

–“Pastor, some of us feel there is a malaise in the church.”

The answer to this one–and these are the exact words I once heard from a group of nay-sayers in my congregation–is a simple one: “Yes there is, and you’re it.”  Well, okay, if you want something less confrontive, try this: “What exactly does that mean?” and hear them out before responding.

Why, I wonder, do people think they can spend their days criticizing the pastor and undercutting him, then fire him because “there is a malaise within the congregation.” There ought to be one; they made it! (Webster defines ‘malaise’ as an unfocused feeling of general unease or discomfort. Which is exactly what a constant barrage of criticism and non-support builds within a church body.)

–“Preacher, we were here a long time before you and we’ll be here after you leave. Don’t tell us what to do with our church.”

This ungodly approach is usually directed toward the pastor of a small church, particularly a first-timer who doesn’t know any better. But its cousin lurks in the hallways and classrooms of the larger churches where members-with-seniority-and-clout (MWSAC) resent the changes the pastor is bringing in.

The clearest answer, of course, is found in Matthew 16:18.  The Lord said it’s His church, not mine and not yours.  “Now, you were saying?”

–“Pastor, some of us think it’s time for new leadership.”

This one is also a camouflage for the real reason they are attacking you, pastor. They have no answer for what you preach and the way you are leading. They want you out and the best they can come up with is this nebulous, foggy, smoky reasoning.

The answer to it is, “You’re right. I think you’ve been chairman of deacons long enough, don’t you?”   (Please smile.)

–“Pastor, there’s a delegation of deacons here to see you. Now.”

Nothing strikes terror into the pastor’s soul like this one. He knows the boom is about to be lowered. Even if he stands up to them and carries the day and keeps his job, the fact of the confrontation itself will leave him shattered and unnerved for the rest of the day. No one enjoys this.

My hunch is that fully half those in the pastoring business despise confrontation. They feel called as healers and blessers. They will put up with a lazy staffer, try to outlast a critical member, or endure a rebellious leader far longer than they should simply because they hate to call someone on the carpet and have to deal with the consequences. Maybe they’ll move to another church, they think to themselves.

Now, if the preacher has served any length of time, he knows he has failed some people, he has preached some lousy sermons along the way, and he has left undone work he should have pulled off. In other words, he knows he is not guiltless.

He’s normal.

I strongly believe anyone who has been married for three years or more has grounds for divorce. If one were keeping account of every slight, every put-down, every harsh word, he/she could convince some judge somewhere of grounds for divorce for incompatibility.

In a sense, a pastorate is like a marriage. The only way to make it work past the honeymoon stage is for both sides to agree for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.

But the person who is committed to their spouse–or the church to the pastor–so long as everything goes well will soon be headed to the divorce courts.

There is no way to say this strongly enough: Every pastorate that endures–that is, every church that keeps a pastor for any length of time–has to make up its mind to weather the storms that blow through from time to time.

What are the storms pastors endure and which blow through every congregation periodically?

Criticism. Disaffection. Mass exodus, with members taking their tithes. Sinful rebellion against godly leadership. Worldly philosophies. Carnal failures.

Here’s are questions which every church leader should ask themselves from time to time–

1) What would it take for me to leave this church?

2) How committed am I to seeing this church’s mission through to completion?

3) Do I really believe God calls pastors to churches and that He alone decides when one should leave?

4) Am I part of my pastor’s support team or one of those who make it difficult for him to do the work God sent him here to accomplish?

Hey, you want frightening words to preachers? Nothing will give him a heart attack more than you approaching him five minutes before the morning service and saying, “Uh, pastor, I thought you’d want to know. The pastor-search committee from First Church Bigtown is here today. All twelve of them.”

Oh my. Watch him sweat now.  (Smile, please.)