The one trait great pastors and coaches have in common

There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job, and that man was blameless and upright, one who feared God and shunned evil. –Job 1:1

Job, you have instructed many.  You have strengthened weak hands; your words have upheld him who was stumbling; and you have strengthened the feeble knees.  –Job 4:3-4

Authenticity: Job had it.

It’s my observation that in sports the best coaches and in church the most effective pastors are all authentic.

They are the real deal.

They don’t try to be someone else.  While they have surely picked up traits and lessons and insights from others, they do not do their imitation of other people.  They are themselves.

The word–I love finding the root meaning of words–comes from autos, meaning “self,” and hentes, Greek for worker, doer, author.  So, we might say “authentic” means “coming from the author” or “genuine.”

The Bible is authentic.  It comes from the Original Author (of all things!).

What started me thinking about this was a sports discussion on the radio one morning recently.  A former UCLA coach made the observation after the LSU-Alabama slugfest back in November, that both coaches, Nick Saban and Ed Orgeron, are authentic.  They are originals, copying no one, imitating no one, just being who they are.

The speaker said, “Coach O would tell you, if he were sitting here today, that when he went to Ole Miss as coach (2005-2007), he made the mistake of trying to imitate someone else, not being himself.”  If that’s the case, and I expect it is, Coach O then had the lesson reinforced at subsequent places where he coached, that the only way to do this is by being yourself.

The slang these days is “you be you.”  Some of us  recoil at the offense of that, but if it’s calling for authenticity, it’s good. If it’s saying you are to give sway to every urge inside you, no matter what, it’s not good.

I think I’ll stick with the word authenticity.

For a pastor of the Lord’s flock, what would authenticity involve?  Some thoughts on that…

One.  Be the person God created you to be.  Accept what He did when He made you and believe He knew what He was doing.

Don’t try to be someone else.

Two.  Bring your personality to the cross and make sure Christ is Lord of all that is you.

Don’t let your humor or talk run unrestrained and try to justify it with “that’s just who I am” and “it’s me being me.”  We all have best selves and lower natures.  Christians are always working to be their best self for Jesus’ sake.

On the other hand, do not repress your humor or your originality when you enter the pulpit.  One of the most delightful personalities I ever knew was a pastor who left it all behind when he began to preach.  He could have been twice the preach he was had he stayed with the way God made him.  (Just my observation; I’m not his judge.)

Three. Recognize that as a disciple of Jesus Christ, you should always be growing in Christlikeness.  The nine qualities making up the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) will increasingly describe your mature character.

At no point will you arrive in this life.  You should be a better you this year than last.  Authenticity means being your best self. (No, Joel Osteen did not copyright that expression.  You may use it. Smile, please.)

Four.  Feel free to share the story of your pilgrimage, insights picked up along life’s journey, with others.  One way to let people see you are the real deal  is to let them see your scars.

Another  way of looking at the subject might be to ask “What would inauthentic look like?”  And the answers would include things like…

–You faked your resume, claimed experiences and degrees you didn’t have.  Not good.

–You hide your inner self from others, never shed a tear, never let them see you sweat, never reveal to others that you are hurting.  Not good.

–You are one way with some people and another way with others.  Two faced, yes, and even multi-faced.  I keep thinking of two verses: “A double-minded man is unstable in all his way” (James 1:8) and “Unite my heart to fear Thy name” (Psalm 86:11).

–You are spiritual and godly with your church and a tyrant at home.  I’ve seen that and it’s not a pleasant thing.  The children will drop out of church the first chance they get.  Not good.

–You are wonderful  with most church members and a tyrant with the staff.  Or, spiritual with the congregation but worldly with a few big shots.  Or, on the golf course  you place bets and laugh at the dirty jokes, etc.  Not good.

Authenticity in a pastor is an essential.  Inauthenticity is hypocrisy and a deal-breaker.

A few years back I reconnected with someone who used to be in the college Sunday School class I had taught a generation earlier.  As we connected, at one point she said, “I need someone to talk with, but you’re not the person.”

I said, “How did you decide that?”

She said, “You’ve got it all together.  You’ve not had any failures and setbacks in life like the rest of us.”

Hmm, I wondered.  How did she come to that conclusion?

I said, “I had cancer, surgery for it,  and radiation. I live with the after-effects of the cancer.  I’ve been run off from a church where I thought I was going to stay twenty years. My wife is a semi-invalid and my life is all about helping her.”

She was quiet, then said, “Oh. I had no idea.”

Right. That’s how it works.  If the people around us look like they’ve got it all together, we assume they’ve not had the bumps and bruises the rest of us deal with every day of our lives.

It’s not my assignment to go around showing my scars and telling my life story.  But as it comes up, it actually helps establish a connection with people when they learn we have also come through the fires.

We do not have a high priest who cannot be touched with our feelings of infirmity, said the writer of Hebrews. He was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.  Therefore, we come boldly to His throne of grace… (Hebrews 4:14-16).


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