I began serving the Lord when I was 11 years old, began preaching the Word when I was 21, and began pastoring a year later. At the moment, I’m 83 years old.  Here are a few lessons this life of ministry has taught me….

One. Never tell anyone anything you don’t want repeated.  The single exceptions are the Lord in prayer or your wife in the bedroom.

Two. Never put anything negative in a letter.  It will still be circulating and poisoning people against you long after you’re in the grave.

Three.  Never fail to check all the references of a prospective staff member.  And then check a few more.

Four. Differences of opinion–in a church or on a staff–can be healthy, but dissension/competition should be nipped in the bud.

Five.  Neglect your family and you will have a lifetime to regret it.

Six.  A sense of humor can be a lifesaver–if you know how to control it and when to let it loose.

Seven.  God does not send the pastor to make the church happy, but to make Himself happy.  He sends pastors to make the flock holy and healthy.  Not ten members in the typical church know this.

Eight. Ninety-five percent of the things you pray for, you’ll never know if the Lord answers or not.  Because you do not know what would have happened had you not prayed.  You’ll get to Heaven before you see what God was doing.  If you cannot accept that, you’ll quit praying.  And many have quit praying.  You will pray by faith or not pray at all.

Nine.  Preachers, Bible teachers, and those who work with youth and children will not know until they get to Glory how God has used them.  If they insist on seeing immediate fruits for their labors, they will either resort to gimmicks or grow discouraged and quit. And many have quit.

Ten. Those who place gifts in the offering at church will not know in this lifetime what God does with their offerings. They will give by faith or not at all.

Eleven.  Whatever we do to the Church–to its ministers, its members, and the little children–Jesus takes personally. He has written the names of some troublemakers into His schedule at which time they will give account of the damage they have done. You do not want to be standing anywhere near them when that happens.

Twelve.  If you do not like change, you’re going to have trouble following Jesus.

Thirteen.  Anyone claiming to live by faith must be prepared to go it alone sometimes, to buck the trends often, to suffer at the hands of pious people from time to time, and spend a great deal of time waiting on the Lord.  Those wanting an easy life may start out following Jesus, but won’t stay long.  “It is through much tribulation that we enter the kingdom” (Acts 14:22).

Fourteen.  Anyone who insists he does not live by faith but only science must never have eaten in a restaurant, driven on an interstate, taken a wonder drug, or flown in an airplane.

Fifteen.  The pastor who demands a 100 percent vote before he comes or a salary raise in order to stay may need to reconsider his call. Likewise, the minister who refuses to serve more than 50 miles away from his parents.  I’m remembering a minister who said to me, “My folks are getting elderly.” They were in their 60s.

Sixteen.  The church leader who demands to be obeyed because “God put me in charge” may know a verse or two of Scripture but he has overlooked all the rest.  I suggest he read I Peter 5:1-4 ten times a day until it becomes a part of the marrow of his bones.

Seventeen.  Fully one-half of the criticism pastors receive about their preaching comes from people who are unhappy that the Bible says what it says and not what they want it to.

Eighteen.  The pastor who is upset because the congregation failed to appreciate him or to acknowledge his anniversary needs to go back and read the mandate from the Savior in Matthew 10:16-42.  He cannot say he wasn’t warned.

Nineteen. The gospel message is not that God loves everybody, but that God so loved us all that Jesus died for us all. And He rose again.  And He now commands all to repent and receive Him. He is coming back some day to bring all of this to a conclusion of His own making.

Twenty. Christians who say–as many say to me–“I don’t smile” should ask themselves if they are saved, whether they believe the gospel, and just how strongly they believe that Jesus “came that they might have life and have it more abundantly.” The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy…. (Galatians 5:22-23).  Joy?  Yep.

Twenty-One.  Only the strong can humble themselves.  Only the strong can submit to others with whom they differ.  That’s why so few will humble themselves, submit to others, and serve those with whom they disagree.