What I told her when she said her prayers were so weak

“It’s not all up to you.”

She had given me a burdensome list of prayer needs.  Her husband was battling a terminal illness, her daughter was in a bad situation, the grandchildren were at risk, and she herself felt so far away from the Lord.

I’m breaking no confidence in sharing this.  First, she gave permission, and second, her needs are not unlike a dozen people whom I know. There is a lot of this going around.  A few minutes ago, a mother whom I do not know, but who found us on the internet, wrote with a similar list of prayer needs.

She asked me to pray for her. She did not ask for advice. However, while I am indeed lifting her needs in prayer, the next best gift I can give is to encourage her own praying.’

I said seven things to her.

One. “There is something about a mother’s prayers. For reasons I don’t understand, they seem to carry a great deal of weight in Heaven, perhaps more than others. I can’t prove it; I just believe it.”

“I want you to pray.”

Two.  “Several times a day,  just drop to your knees, even if it’s just for 10 seconds.”

Three.  “If you don’t say anything else to the Lord, just call out the names of your loved ones for whom you are praying.”

I do this myself.  I might say, “Lord, Neil, Julie, Grant, Abby and Erin; Marty, Misha, Darilyn and Jack; Jinoke, Leah, Jessica and JoAnne! Thank you!”

Four. “I want you to turn to Romans 8:26 and read it again and again and again.”

“In the same way, the Spirit also helps us in our weakness. For we do not know how to pray as we should. But the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.”

Five.  “Notice two big things here:  a)  You don’t pray well, and b) the Holy Spirit picks up the slack. So, it’s not all up to you.”

Six.  “You will notice that verse 34 of the same chapter says the risen-and-ascended Lord Jesus intercedes for us at the ‘right hand of God.’

The Holy Spirit and the Lord Jesus both are interceding for us.  How good is that!

Our accusing heart says our prayers are so weak they do no good and God would not possibly hear us.  The heart is wrong.

Seven.  The Lord is on our side.  Verse 31 of this chapter says, “If (since) God is for us, who can be against us?” And then, “He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not also with Him freely give us all things?”

The Lord takes our side.  He wants us to do well in life.  Both the Holy Spirit and the Glorified Son are interceding for us in Heaven.

Verse 26 contains another treasure in the word translated “helps.”  The Greek word is synantilambanomai, a compound word made up of syn meaning “together, with,” anti meaning “in front of, opposite to,” and lambanomai, a form of the verb “to lift.”

When we offer up our weak prayers, the Holy Spirit gets on the other side of our burden and together with us, gets under it and lifts.

Is He ever wonderful or what?

Think of a man trying to pull a cross-cut saw by himself.  Or a woman trying to make a bed alone. But with a friend on the other side, the work goes so much better.

You’re not alone in your praying.  The Lord is encouraging your prayer, hearing your prayer, receiving your prayer, and then turning it into far more than anything you ever dreamed of.

My Lord is praying with me.

We are praying a duet.

And so….

The question then becomes not whether the Lord hears or cares when we pray. The question is not even do we believe strongly enough. The fact is we believe weakly and pray poorly. But that’s all right.  Mustard-seed faith is plenty sufficient, according to our Lord (Luke 17:6).

So, the only question is Will You Pray?

Will. You. Pray?


4 thoughts on “What I told her when she said her prayers were so weak

  1. Thank you, Dr. McKeever. My daughter is experiencing many challenges at this time and believes that God has not answered her prayers, therefore she no longer believes. The Lord led me to Mark chapter seven where the Syriphenician woman “besought him, (Jesus), that he would cast forth the devil out of her daughter), verse 26. Thankfully, it was the mother who humbly interfeded on behalf of her daughter by faith. “And he said to her, For this saying go thy way; the devil is gone out of thy daughter, (verse 29). May we all find comfort in God’s word.

  2. Thank you so very much for your words of encouragement. My sister and I were just talking, on FB, and she gave me the link to this. I’ve read it before but, really needed to read it, again.
    I’ve backslidden from the Lord. Not that He has been very far from my mind. However, I’ve not been reading the Bible as I once did. Not feeling His presence as I once did, either. That said, however, I have been praying for restoration and I know that He’s in the prayer-answering business.
    So, again, thank you for your words of encouragement. I’m planning on re-reading this several times in the next few days. God bless you.

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