In Wednesday’s Pastors meeting at LaPlace…. Mike Canady came from the state Baptist convention to acquaint everyone with NAMB’s Project Noah, involving thousands of volunteers in rebuilding 1,000 homes and 20 churches…Cherry Blackwell talked about the First-Responders-Appreciation-Event set for Saturday April 8 at the New Orleans Arena. All pastors and others interested in helping us honor the thousands of military/law enforcement/medical/firefighting workers who saved our city are invited to meet with Cherry at Williams Boulevard Baptist Church in Kenner on Tuesday, March 21 at 2 pm.
I left early for a funeral of a dear 87-year-old who was a pillar in the First Baptist Church of Kenner for all the years I was there and a long time before. Brentiss “Brenda” Triay–all 80 pounds of her–had worked during the Second World War at the Delta Shipyards in New Orleans, down in the ships’ holds, using a welder burner. Her son-in-law David Watts, said, “She was an unsung hero of the war.” Brenda and her two sisters, Sybil Boudreaux and Catherine Creel, were mainstays of the church, the kind of members every pastor craves, the low-maintenance/high return kind. I was greeting worshipers one Sunday and came near where the three sat, making my small talk. I said to them, “There’s something I don’t understand. You are all sisters. You obviously love each other. Why don’t you live together?” They reacted in horror, and said almost in unison, “Oh no. We can’t get along!” I’m still laughing about that.
I’ve decided to use our sessions with the pastors on Wednesdays to drop in an occasional pointer on pastoring churches. Since I was leaving early today for a funeral, I took the occasion to share some convictions on Christian funeral services.
1. Make the gospel message clear and plain. Do not equivocate on the promises of the Lord about eternal life. When it comes to death and the afterlife, you have the only message in town.
2. Begin your funeral message with a clear, concise statement from Scripture. “I am the resurrection and the life…” or “Let not your heart be troubled. You believe in God, believe also in me….” I’ve seen ministers walk to the podium and their opening words of the funeral were something like, “So many times when we come to experiences like this….” I think to myself, “You’ve spoken only half a sentence and I’m already bored. Speak up, man. Tell what Jesus said. Be positive!”
3. I suggest you memorize many of the texts you will be using in funeral messages. John 11:25 and John 14:1-6, as well as Psalm 23, come to mind. You need to know those texts inside and out. However, one caveat: If you recite a lengthy passage from memory in the service, open your Bible like you’re reading it and glance at it occasionally. Otherwise, you will draw attention to yourself and away from the Scripture. The audience will quit listening and start thinking, “Isn’t he smart. He has memorized all that.” Often in a funeral, I may quote Psalm 23, but no one knows I’ve memorized it since I have the Bible open. Only by looking over my shoulder would anyone notice it’s not open to Psalm 23.
4. In a funeral, do not give the “zip code” for all the Scriptures you will be using. No one cares that you’re now reading chapter 11 and verses 5 through 8 and have just read chapter 8, verses 11 and 12. Just read it. At other times when you are actually teaching the text, give every reference. But not at a funeral. Just declare it.
Toward the end of the morning, I talked with the pastors on how to make your public invitations more effective. Two events in my life have forever etched a great lesson on my heart.
In the mid-1970s at the Billy Graham crusade in Birmingham, I attended his school of evangelism held at a downtown church. One of the conferences dealt with making your public invitation more effective. The teacher asked the class, “At what point does Mr. Graham begin his invitation in a crusade sermon?” Someone raised his hand and said, “When he begins to speak.” “Exactly,” said our teacher. “Notice what he does tonight.” That evening at the time of the sermon, Mr. Graham walked to the podium, said some preliminary remarks, then said, “Tonight many of you have come here with burdened hearts. Some have come with broken homes and great questions. I’m going to ask you to commit your life to the Lord Jesus Christ….” and he went on from there, beginning his sermon with an invitation. He repeated it in the middle of the message and then extended it for real at the end. As usual, people filled every aisle going forward.
A few years later, we had taken our youth choir from our Mississippi church to England for two weeks. Our host church’s pastor invited me to preach for the church in Tonbridge, Kent, both Sundays. I did everything exactly as I would have back home, including offering a public invitation, to which, incidentally, no one responded. On the second Sunday, a deacon said, “Pastor, may I tell you why no one responded to your altar call?” He explained, “Pastor David extends the invitation only on the Sundays when we have the Lord’s Supper. So, we know to expect it then and we’re ready for it. But we did not know until you came to the end of your sermon you were going to do that. Had you told us when you first got up, we would have been ready.” Great counsel, too late given, but something I should have already known.
I challenged the pastors to begin their messages by announcing to the congregation the nature of the invitation at the start of the sermon, then repeat it in some fashion in the body of the message, and then, of course, at the end. And see what a difference it makes.
Freddie Arnold and I met with a pastor and church leader of a congregation that is in the middle of the dead zone this week. They’re trying to decide what to do, as are other churches in the same situation. We will appreciate the prayers of our friends throughout the country.
Freddie finally got inside his FEMA trailer. It’s been parked at our associational building for weeks, but without electrical hookups. And the keys were locked inside. “How did you get in?” I asked. He grinned sheepishly and said, “With a wire. I picked it.” Ah, those pre-salvation skills do come in handy from time to time. A team from Oklahoma is wiring the trailer this week.
BILLY GRAHAM ARRIVES IN NEW ORLEANS
Thursday’s paper tells of Mr. Graham’s and Franklin’s tour of the devastated areas of the city Wednesday, particularly the Lower 9th Ward. At one point, the senior evangelist got out of the van to gaze around at the scope of the disaster. Having to be helped in and out of the van, he said, “I’m sorry for being so crippled.” Double whammy of a broken hip and Parkinson’s. Mr. Graham said, “I’d thought I’d read it all, but it doesn’t compare to what you see in just a few minutes’ tour of this area.”
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