Why do people do the things they do?
Try to figure that one out and soon your brain will explode from over-exertion.
Why did certain people leave your church? Why did that pastor search committee–that looked so promising, talked so excitedly, and seemed so certain–suddenly disappear without a word of explanation? Why did a friend turn on you and walk out of your life without a word?
People are going to leave your church, pastor.
You ministered to them faithfully, you thought you had a great relationship with them and they were happy under your ministry, then suddenly you noticed they were gone. Sometime later, you learn they joined another church down the road a mile. What happened? Ideally, they will make an appointment to explain their actions.
But don’t hold your breath, preacher. This is not an ideal world.
In a half century of ministry, the number of families that have come to explain why they were leaving, I could count on one hand.