“He who finds a wife finds a good thing”(Proverbs 18:22).
Let’s talk about finding a wife.
The simplest thing to tell you two boys is to do what your dads did. My sons and your dads, Neil and Marty, chose excellent women for their wives and your mamas. I wouldn’t be surprised if they chose better than they knew and that may well have been the result of your Grandma’s prayers.
For a long time, Grandma prayed that God would pick the right women for our sons. He came through in flying colors, as you know.
Now, try to do as well as your fathers did and we’ll be through here.
Background: Grant is about to turn 20 and Jack is 12. Jack lives outside Charlotte, NC, and Grant the same distance from New Orleans. Grant works in Zoes Kitchen, a trendy restaurant near here and takes courses at Delgado Community College, while Jack is doing what 12-year-old boys do.
We’re some years away from either of you choosing a bride, I fully expect
But now is the time to begin thinking about it, particularly Grant. Before falling in love with “the” one and your hormones beginning to smother your brain and blocking out all judgment, now is the time to make some decisions and establish some standards.
By “standards,” we mean you should say “This is what I will will insist on in the woman I marry and I will settle for nothing less.”
The other side of that coin, of course, is that you should dedicate yourself to becoming a husband worthy of her. After all, what’s the use of finding the ideal wife if she decides you are an unfit husband?
But, that’s another article. This one is about you choosing her.