I have been an assistant pastor and as pastor, I have had assistants. They can be a great help in time of need. And they can be a pastor’s biggest headache.
I wish I’d had one in a certain church. I regretted having one in another.
In his book “The Twelve Caesars,” Michael Grant says these rulers of the Roman Empire were one-man shows for a long time. Their burdens were heavy and their duties endless. Most caesars worked very hard, he said. They desperately needed advisors, consultants, and assistants. But therein lay a huge problem. How does one bring on board someone to be his assistant, an up-close and personal consultant, who is in on all the important issues of the day, without him being caught up in all the intrigue, the dramas, the personal animosities and rivalries. How to find out who is loyal.
An assistant can be the pastor’s best friend; an assistant can do a great deal of damage.
I asked a pastor about a staff member he was having issues with. “Are you afraid of him?” He answered, “I’m not afraid of him, but I’m afraid of the damage he can do.”
Let’s say you’re the pastor of a growing church. The church has just brought in a new minister to assist you in leading the congregation. He/she might be a worship pastor, minister of music, student minister, or in charge of education or pastoral care.
One of the best things a pastor can do with the incoming minister is to make him/her aware of your expectations. You will want to think them through and write them out, then share them after you both have agreed that God is leading him/her to your church. Give the person the printed copy and don’t lose your own. This may be necessary if the time comes when you have to deal with a rebellious or lazy staff member.
In sharing these, do it graciously, not dictatorially as though you are going to be looking over their shoulder all the time.
You could even follow this by asking for their expectations concerning you. I guarantee you they have them. They will expect you to deal with them as ministers of the gospel, to give them room to do their job, to pay them well and protect them on their off days, and to support them when the criticism is unfair. If the new staffer is expecting something from you which was not spoken and never implied, you want to know that up front before you get too deeply into the employment process.
What follows are things I shared with our staff members in six churches over forty-two years. Some of them evolved, while some of them were there from the first. The list is not complete, but only things I recall at this vantage point…
“Give to everyone who asks of you” (Luke 6:30).
Everyone who works around the church office will identify with this.
From my journal of Tuesday, August 12, 1997…
In the afternoon, I took a phone call from a Don Peterson. “Remember me?” he said.
I said, “Refresh my memory.”
“My fiancée and I were in your services three Sundays ago.”
“Well, my father has died. In Ann Arbor, Michigan. I need some money for a plane ticket. I need to borrow it until Sunday.”
I said, “How much?”
I said, “How can I verify this?”
“Only Luke is with me. Pick up Mark and bring him with you, for he is useful to me for service” (2 Timothy 4:11).
From time to time, pastors invite me to spend an hour or two with their leadership team, primarily the church staff, at their weekly meeting. It’s informal and conversational and takes place around the office conference table with the coffee pot going and a rapidly diminishing plate of donuts before us.
Some thoughts I share with the team include the following…
One. Nothing is more important than that you keep yourself close to the Lord.
He is your source. “God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” (Psalm 73:26).
Jesus Christ is the Giver of everything that concerns you. He called you into this work (after saving you!) and He sent you to this church. If either of those is not the case, you would do well to get alone with Him for an hour and clear everything up, then do as His Spirit instructs.
Keeping yourself close to Jesus means exactly what you think it does: daily quiet time with Him, with your Bible open and your heart in constant prayer, bringing every thought and act under His lordship. We should begin and end the day in prayer, and offer up prayers throughout the day. “Pray without ceasing” (I Thessalonians 5:17). We should know God’s word and meditate upon it. A church staffer should never say knowing the Word is the preacher’s job; it’s every believer’s privilege and duty.
From time to time, your pastor is going to exasperate you; Jesus will give you patience and understanding. Your income is not going to be sufficient; Jesus will hear your prayers and send what He wants you to have. Your job conditions are going to change, and sometimes the assignment dearest to your heart and matching perfectly your spiritual gifts and talents will be taken from you; Jesus will be your counselor, guide, and protector, or you will be in trouble.
The Holy Spirit will be your Human Resources Director. He is your Lord.
If I work for you, I expect you to protect me when I’m attacked unfairly and defend me when I am accused unjustly. Your failure to do this means I lose confidence in you and the quality of my work begins to suffer immediately. In most cases, I begin looking for a better environment in which to work.
Let a good supervisor–the manager of a business, principal of a school, or pastor of a church– learn this most valuable lesson.
I was a year or two out of college, newly married, and pastoring a tiny church up the highway 25 miles. During the week, however, I was the secretary to the production manager of a cast iron pipe plant on the outskirts of Birmingham, Alabama.
My boss was 65-year-old Clyde Hooper, a cigar-chewing Methodist layman who could teach sailors a few things about plain speaking. He had paid his dues in coming up the hard way, and was so tightly bonded with the 300 men working in the foundry that they would have died–or killed–for one another. Mr. Hooper wore a crisp, starched white shirt and beautiful tie to work every day. I adored the man.
I also emptied his spittoon in the corner of the office.
Oh man. When a friend suggested we ask Facebook friends what to do when a pastor or staff-member is not tithing–and not even giving anything to the Lord’s work–I went with it. And the fur flew, far more than I expected. Answers ranged from “Terminate the guy, immediately” (a large contingent said that) to “Tithe? That’s Old Testament law and has no place for New Testament believers!” to “Who are you to judge?” They argued back and forth, and some became rather unChristian in their comments. Then, one group accused the other of Pharisaism and condemned the condemners.
Amazing how this issue arouses the dander of some otherwise reasonably minded people. Even so, ever the one to charge hell with a water pistol, I thought I’d take on the subject. Here goes….
First, I write as a tither. But it was hard getting started, I will admit.
Giving one-tenth of my income to the Lord was never taught in the churches I grew up in. As a college student I joined a Southern Baptist church where tithing seemed to be a pillar of the faith. One day, the minister of education approached to ask if I would give my tithing testimony. I stared at him blankly and said, “What is that?” First time I’d heard of this thing called “tithing.” He was aghast. But then, Ron Palmer had come from a longtime Southern Baptist family where tithing had been ingrained in him since childhood. It was new to me.
Learning to tithe was slow and hard.
“Sing unto the Lord a new song” (Psalm 96:1; 98:1; etc).
She has a marvelous voice, one anybody this side of Juillard would be proud to own. When she sang in church with her musician husband, they blended wonderfully and blessed the congregation. But she undermined her own effectiveness by her timidity, that paralyzing self-consciousness which froze her in place and refused to let her enjoy the moment.
Stage fright, we call it.
Who among us is unacquainted with that monster?
Most of us know precisely how she feels.
That’s why, on the final night of our meeting, as I expressed appreciation in private to this couple, I spoke to her quietly. “Can I tell you one thing about your presentation?”
She smiled shyly. “I know what you’re going to say.”
And she did, to a point.
“Barnabas and Saul” (Acts 13:7). “Paul and his companions” (Acts 13:13). “Paul and Barnabas” (Acts 13:43).
Sometimes when we say “He must increase; I must decrease,” it’s not Jesus we’re referring to, but a brother or sister of ours.
Early in my seminary pastorate, I looked around for quick ways to make a difference in our little bayou church. Since I had been a secretary for several years and typing and running printing machines were second nature to me, I decided the church bulletin would receive my attention.
I asked Mrs. Porter, the lovely senior lady who had the weekly responsibility of gathering the information, typing it into the form, and printing it as a handout bulletin for Sunday services, if I could take it over. To her credit, she was not offended, but delighted to get rid of that task. (She had plenty of other responsibilities. As I say, it was a small church.)
The bulletin I produced was sharper than hers. The typing was clearer, the English was classier, and the overall appearance was better.
I had made a serious mistake.
A friend who works with student ministers on the various college campuses around New Orleans has invited me to address his team in their weekly gathering. Asked if he had a topic in mind for me, he said, “Give us three things you would tell those just starting out in ministry.”
Three things? How about a hundred! Here are a few that come to mind, in no particular order.
1) Make sure of your calling.
The ministry can be tough and you will often be lonely and experience great frustration. Things are not going as you had planned. The people you trusted have proven themselves untrustworthy. Those over you in the work have been unable to fulfill their promises. You’re seeing little results from your labors. You are exhausted and see no way to clear off the schedule for a well-earned rest.
Unless God calls you into this work, you will not last.
My dear brother in Christ William E. Hardy, Jr., went to Heaven this week.
Bill Hardy was the very definition of faithfulness, of integrity and character. He was solid gold.
Our friendship dates back to May of 1974 when Bill and Barbara Hardy moved from Kosciusko, Mississippi, up the highway an hour or so to Columbus, Mississippi. Bill was joining the staff of our First Baptist Church, coming from a similar position in Kosciusko.
It was to be the start of a lifelong friendship.
Bill remained with us in Columbus for nearly a decade before moving on to Casper, Wyoming, where he served as director of Christian education for the Southern Baptists of that state. On retiring, perhaps 10 years later, they returned to the Magnolia State.
Bill died this week. His funeral is Saturday, September 13, 2014, at the First Baptist Church of Clinton, Mississippi. 11 a.m.
I will not have time in the service to say everything I’d like to about Bill, so this blog is a good place to deposit a few remembrances.
My greatest tribute to Bill Hardy is one he probably did not appreciate very much.