“When I am weak, then am I strong.” –2 Corinthians 12:10
Jackie called me the other day. He and I were classmates in high school but we’ve not seen each other in forty years or more. We soon picked up the conversation like we were together last week.
He said, “Joe, my wife died ten days ago. I am having a hard time dealing with it. I know you’ve been through this when your wife died. Can you talk to me?”
Wow. Such a courageous thing he did, to reach out and ask for help. I do not have words to say how much I admire him for this. (We talked for 30 minutes and prayed together. Then, I sent him the book on grief my wife Bertha and I wrote last year about the deaths of our spouses of 52 years. I’ve prayed for Jackie ever since.)
Asking someone for help takes courage and strength. I’m well aware it feels otherwise, like we’re at the end of our rope and cannot think of anything to do. But only the truly strong person will ask for help. Most people will suffer in silence and pay the consequences.
Only. The. Strong. Will. Ask. For. Help.
It’s another one of those truths which people call counter-intuitive. That is, it might appear to be a sign of weakness, but it’s something only the truly strong can do. Like yielding to the bully on the highway. A weaker person would give vent to his anger and try to teach that guy a lesson. But the strong person knows no one can teach that guy anything, it’s not worth risking one’s own life to do, and his goal is to arrive at his destination safely. So, he controls his anger and goes forward safely.