What started this for me was a “Dear Marilyn” column in the Sunday “Parade” magazine a couple of years ago. Columnist Marilyn Vos Savant was answering some character who wanted to know what the big deal was about compromising and giving in, in order for parties to reach an agreement. “I never give in,” he wrote, “when I think I’m right.” Marilyn wrote back, “So when do you give in–when you think you’re wrong?”
When something lodges in my mind–a story or quote or event–even something as inconsequential as that little exchange, I know the Holy Spirit is handing me a spiritual lesson on a platter and that I’m to pull aside and listen.
What the Parade writer called “compromising” or “giving in to others,” the Bible calls “submission.” And it makes a great deal of that subject.
We’re told that the young child Jesus submitted to his parents (Luke 2:51). We’re instructed to submit to the laws of man (Romans 13:1). The church is to submit to Christ (Ephesians 5:24). Wives to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). The younger to the older (I Peter 5:5). And servants to their masters (Titus 2:9 and I Peter 2:18).
The Parade writer is not alone is disliking the concept. The great mass of humanity lines up with him, each person feeling his point of view is right, his rights take precedence over all other considerations, and that if he does not look out for “number one,” no one else will.
Bible historians tell us that meekness and submission were looked upon with scorn by every society until the Christian faith turned values on their heads and made these into virtues. That did not, however, change how people feel. We have an innate resistance to bowing before anyone or anything. “I am the captain of my soul” is article one in the spiritual credo of untold millions.
Many would call this resistance to submission one of our greatest strengths. If so, sometimes our strength can be our weakness.